Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Keeping Crazy Busy

Years ago, before I knew anything, I thought kids should have tons of free time to play, be imaginative, get bored, etc. I now know better*.

These days we stay crazy busy, because Crazy needs to be busy. If you haven't picked up on what I mean by Crazy, I actually mean Royal. Before Judgement gets the best of you, let me explain.

Royal NEEDS to be busy ALL the time. Because if he isn't he gets crazy. And when he gets crazy we all feel CRAZY!!! So "keeping crazy busy" keeps the crazies away.

What "Crazy" looks like: talking, teasing, lying, stealing, eating, poking, kicking, spinning, fighting, pacing, boring, breaking, whining, crying, complaining.

What "Busy" looks like: focused, happy, laughing, bragging, running, sweating, smiling, success, occupied, confident, loving, joyful, smart.

See the difference?

It's irrational how much this kid loves treats!

Brag, brag, brag, brag... But he should! He's an incredible soccer player!!

My boy doesn't find freedom in free time and for him boredom does not lead to imaginative play. While he is incredibly intelligent, charming, funny, and talented, these characteristics only come out when he's in a highly structured environment.

I'm so glad to have finally figured this out, gotten over feeling guilty that I can't "make him relaxed" (or whatever I thought I was doing) and signed him up for School, Karate, and Soccer (after school activities are everyday but Tuesday, and that day we invite friends over). He loves them all and feels successful in those places. 

God bless him. He needs to be busy.

*I still think most kids need that stuff- but there's always an exception!

Friday, September 18, 2015

School's in Session

Today is day two. Hallelujah!
Ena could not have been more thrilled about her first day's experience. She loved it all. 
Predictably, Royal had many negative things to say like, "I have SO much homework... My teacher has a really stupid sense of humor... This year is going to be so boring." He later confessed that he had no homework and his teacher is okay. She named him class secretary. 


Ena does the happy dance.

The nerves set in, feeling a little anxious, but he did great.

Today I spent my morning like this: Chatted with my sister and niece (uninterrupted), did day 8 of my 30 days of yoga challenge (feels great on my ever ailing back), took an Epson salt bath while listening to All the Light We Cannot See, had lunch at school with Ena (where a classmate questioned my white skin. I said, "you see Ena is adopted." She then turned to Ena and said, "So you're someone else's kid?" Ena rolled her eyes and said, "Whatever," and then grabbed my hand and said, "Come on mom!" Love her), came home and did some Khan Academy math with Wyatt and Ezra.  Wyatt is chomping at the bit to get back into the school routine- that will start on Monday. I still have 2 and half more hours of chaos free bliss in which I will spend filling my car with Goodwill donations, drinking coffee, and listening to my book.

My hubby was a little concerned that I was sending a negative message to the world (through social media) about my kids, so I want to make sure I'm clear on truth- My little two are precious and dear to me. I love them. In fact, they consume me. My brain, heart, and soul need the space to breath and regroup so I have the emotional energy to give them what they need (re-wiring brains is a lot of work my friends) and the free school down the street gives me that. The last few weeks of summer had me at the end of my rope. I was R.E.A.D.Y. for a break. And so were they.

I saw the school principle today (a sporty brown man who has taken a liking to Royal). He said, "Royal's teacher told me today, "Royal is such a polite boy!" Then the secretary chimed in, "he sure is." It made me really happy for him.

Monday, September 14, 2015

I'm SO into this...

If you've known me a while, you know I'm always really into SOMETHING. I have to be. It's my addiction. I don't have a particular addiction. I have an addiction to being addicted. So far in my life I've adored: corn, boys, ballet, running, PAC-man, skiing, cigarettes, getting drunk, the word "rad," running, vegetarianism, growing out my hair, cutting my hair short, dying my hair lots of colors, Yaz, moving, classic literature, Jesus, getting married, babies, the color red, yellow, gray, gray and yellow, homeschooling, home renovations, unschooling, adopting, Crossfit, Paleo, etc. Some of these lasted a short time, others will always be a part of me. This is NOT a complete list.

Two weeks ago it was The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up (call me if you want a consultation), last week it was yoga (I'm on day 6 of my 30 day challenge), and over the last few days it's been cards.

Because the teacher strike continues (tomorrow is day five, but who's counting), we've been playing 5 Crowns, CanCan, Karma, Tenzi, and Quiddler non-stop. They're totally fun and ADDICTIVE! I love addictive. My sweet fellow homeschooling friend made a schedule for Royal and Ena so I could temporarily homeschool them, but I just can't do it. I used to be all, "Look at those sucker parents who think they can depend on the government. Parents should take their kids futures into their own hands." Now I'm all, "I pay taxes! Come on government- educate my children!!" I've totally lost my ability to home educate. It's like I've never done it before.